“Have you ever come across someone who, for some reason you could not quite pinpoint, was such a genuine pleasure to be around that you secretly wished inside that you could be their friend, get to know them better? This book will give you the tools to be that person and will show you how to become friends with others like this.”

“Do you, or have you ever, questioned what your purpose is in life? Have you ever felt like you knew you were meant to do something different than what you are doing now, to make a difference, but you could not put your finger on it no matter how much you tried? Let me tell you, that was me at the time! By learning more through the system I began to realize that we all have a unique purpose in life that is fit just for us, based on what we truly love to do.”

“Throughout this book you will learn how to evaluate areas in your life and yourself such as your job, time spent throughout the day, and your mindset which is your tool for a life full of true friendships and happiness. After evaluating yourself you will be able to use special techniques to transform your life into one even more full of meaning, passion and friends.”

“Why is it then that the numbers of friendships have been declining? Since 1985, studies reveal, the number of friendships have been waning. In 1985 the General Social Survey (GSS) collected the first nationally representative data on this topic.”

“Friendships lead to a better understanding of others; what more do we need now in this world then people appreciating and understanding each other?”

“Have you ever thought of how it would feel to be able to say that you have changed the world for the better? If not, then think about it now. How would you feel if you could look someone in the eyes and say that you have changed the world and do every day of your life, for the better, without much effort? Throughout this book I will explain to you how you will be able to do just that. If you are thinking, “Renee, this seems a bit overwhelming. I’m not sure if I’m ready to change the world,” that’s alright. By applying any principle or idea that is right for you from this book you will indirectly change the world without even having to think twice about it.”

“The 17th century writer, Francis Duc de La Rochefoucauld, said, “We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.” I agree wholeheartedly with his sentiment. Some people these days seem to believe that they have to be someone different from themselves in order to make friends. These people try to create a perfect image of someone that they think others would like as a friend.”

“No one is perfect as a person or in friendships. Though, being yourself, with your best and even undesirable traits is enough to be an amazing friend if you are respectful to others in the process.”

“I was so upset because Lauren was one of my best friends and I cared about her deeply. It broke my heart to realize that day that I was unable to help her. I had tried so many times to no avail. I learned at this moment that all I could do was be there for her until she was ready to get help.”

“There are so many people in this world, including those that you are surrounded by daily. Take the time to get to know them and let them know the real you.”

“In this chapter I will show you how, through a Neuro Linguistic Processing (NLP) framework, to make the distinction in situations with your friends between what is true and what is not, and eliminate inaccurate perceptions. For instance instead of instantly and possibly erroneously perceiving that your friend is upset with you and exhausting energy on that, you can use a framework that will prevent you from perceiving and get straight to the truth.”

“Imagine how many of your thoughts could be channeled into positive actions every day.  Hypothetically, you could potentially commit 50,000 positive acts a day based on your thoughts. Being thoughtful to others is a powerful tool that can elevate and bring your friendships to new levels.”

“I believe that most people are naturally attracted to genuinely positive people, which is why positive people tend to have many friends, as you can too. In this chapter I will give you information on how to train your mind to be positive the majority of the time through a concept I call “Magical Ease” and a simple technique of being grateful.”

“Right now in the year 2011, the majority of the time when I call people by their name they act shocked, or caught off guard. Most people don’t expect to get a hug from me. People at my jobs often have said of me, “She’s a hugger” when new people or clients come to our school and I greet them with a hug. I think that some of my coworkers fear that the people I hug will be uncomfortable at my gesture. The statement comes across like a warning. “Warning, warning Mr. Robinson…hugger is about to give you a big hug; beware!” This is something I hope will diminish in time.”

“To genuinely be positive with others you must first be happy and grateful for your life. I believe that there are many people in our society who are doing something other than what they truly love on a daily basis. They may be in jobs or other situations that do not bring them true happiness. This may even be you. At times this is true for me too. When you are wrapped up in the every day flow of life it is easy to concentrate on what you don’t have or like in your life versus being grateful for what you do have.”

“If you have low expectations in your friendships or neglect them, they will begin to do the same thing our bodies do after we neglect them–deteriorate. All friendships you may have in the future or currently have, have what I like to call a “shower limit.””

“Friends, children, and significant others (SO): oh my. We can prevent going to the Land of Oz to find a realistic solution to balance all of these important people in our lives. The same goal goes for your S.O. as it does your children when it comes to balancing your life with friendships in them. Instead of focusing on making one or the other a priority, rather strive to create a healthy balance that includes your friends.”

“By asking these questions of your friend you will get her even more excited about what her life could be. Example: Amber realized by thinking about the miracle question that her perfect day would be to be in love with a man who treated her with the love and respect she deserved.”

“In the United States, only 50 percent of employees say that they are satisfied with their work.1 This conveys that at least 50 percent of employees in the U.S. are unhappy to their full potential and are therefore missing out on creating and maintaining as many friendships as they are capable of.”

“During the process of transforming our lives into happier ones, which also leads us to being better friends, we must stay grateful for everything, even those aspects we may not see as positive, such as our jobs. We all may not have the luxury of instantly transforming our lives into ones full of passion so we must find ways to stay grateful during the process.”

“Ralph Waldo Emerson once said,Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission.” I agree that nothing pessimistic can come into your mind unless you allow it. If you take charge of what you allow into your mind, you will refrain from becoming a victim or fall prey to what I call “victimitis,” a term I’ve made up.”

“Our thoughts are triggered by our beliefs, expectations, experiences and perceptions, some of which are forged in us at a very young age and are deeply unconscious. Our thoughts, conscious and unconscious, all have certain effects directly on us throughout our lives. One of the effects of our thoughts is our feelings. Based on our past experiences and beliefs we instantly feel certain ways in every situation we encounter, sometimes without any warning. The ways we feel cause us to act or respond to each situation in a certain way, which affects our lives for better or not so good.”

“I want to empower people throughout the world to choose their responses, to become actors instead of victims. I believe our world will be a happier place as a result.”

“The mind is such a powerful tool. One of the key attributes of the mind is that it is a private sphere to which no one but the owner has access. No one else can “know our mind.” Others can only interpret what we communicate, directly or indirectly. I have recently begun to look at my mind as my best friend.”

“This month was the epitome of the saying, “When it rains it pours.” No one would have judged me if I chose to be a victim at this time yet I refrained from letting the “rain” pour all over me and consume my life. I decided in each of these situations to make empowering choices.”

“I looked at Sylvie in a new light that day and always will continue to for the rest of my life. In my eyes Sylvie had been put through some of the most challenging events possible yet she stayed positive.”

“This ripple of cause and effect is how the world changes. Again think of a positive act you committed that you can prove had a positive effect on someone. Do you think that that person you affected kept that happiness you gave to themselves? I don’t think so. Chances are they told someone what you did for them and then felt the need to spread their happiness with others, whether through a smile or another kind act. Then, chances are good that the people they affected also passed on that happiness in some way.”

“Matt, your fiancé is from the islands, you should have him teach you how to relax and chill out. This is not California; we are a lot slower pace here.” I heard every word she said all throughout my entire body. I nodded my head as if conversing as I looked into her deep brown matter of fact eyes. All I could do was keep looking into her eyes to distract me from breaking into tears.”

“One of Kat’s many acts of thoughtfulness took place in May 2007 when my grandpa and first cousin died one day after the other.”

“At times Kelly and I laugh about how our friendship has taken on some “relationship qualities.” This is because we have never settled for less in our friendship. We are daily shower limit friends because we have always kept high expectations for our friendship.”